I feel this tension in life constantly. I want to be happy where I am and with what I have, BUT I also am always seeking better for myself and setting new goals. So how exactly do we learn to love our lives as they are without settling into less than we were meant to be?
I DO NOT have all of the answers on this one. But I've been thinking about it a lot and here's what I've come up with.
1. Just because you're seeking GREAT doesn't mean your life isn't GOOD. Take a few moments to reflect on what is good in your life. There is plenty to be thankful for! Remember these things as you look towards the future and look to make more change. Things don't have to be bad for you to try to get better. Appreciate the now because it's GOOD and move forward because you want GREAT.
2. Remember how far you've come. Sure you're still on your path to the life you've always wanted, but that also means you have already made some changes. Reflect on where you were and how much you have already improved. Just because you still see room for improvement does not mean you haven't already grown and changed for the better.
3. Be happy with yourself BECAUSE you are seeking change. So many people settle for mediocre. It's easier, it's less work, and this tension we're talking about completely disappears. And that's fine for some people. But if you're not willing to accept average and want more from your life, celebrate the fact that who you are right now WANTS to be better and to have better. This is a trait not everyone possesses and we should celebrate it.
4. Not being totally satisfied is what moves us forward. It's not fun to feel slightly unsatisfied with your life (I'm hoping it's just slightly, but depending on your situation it may be more), but if this tension didn't exist, you wouldn't make a single change. This tension is what pulls up to learn more, to challenge ourselves, to grow. Which brings us back to point #3... celebrate that you are propelled by dissatisfaction and not willing to accept it as part of your life!
5. Remember to seek change that makes you BETTER, not change that "fixes" something you think is broken. You are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not a failure. You want to get in better shape, make more money, become a better leader? WONDERFUL! But seek these changes because you know you can do better, not because you think something about you is lacking. Right now, as you are, you are enough! The improvement you seek is because you can, not because you have to.
I hope this helps. This is definitely something I continue to struggle with, but I hope I have some people with me on this path to self-improvement and self-love all at the same time.
I'm Amanda K; lover of fitness, sweets, veggies, adventure, travel, and happiness.